I am back on duty, and while driving home one evening, the dusk scene laid above the sky, the combination of various colour spectrum shone at the horizon. Having this sky in Qatar is rare. It flashbacked my memories for the first time I came here. Something that helps me have a worthy life.
Last 12 years I was unhappy and unsatisfied of work welfare and life balance until one day our CFO said something to me that totally change my entire attitude. She said “It’s not others that unsatisfied you, but it’s the way you see things. If you compare yourself with others, then you won’t be satisfied, but if you compare yourself with your own desire and meet self-sufficiently, then you will find happiness.” Just only that word like a finger snapped changing my thought.
Since that I don’t care what people have and get, I look at myself and satisfy if it meets my demand.
But it doesn’t mean that we will stop improving or challenging to the higher hierarchy. I still set my new goals every time once the previous one was accomplished. I did as we were advised to set up the goal at the beginning of each year and try to make them real. Have you ever notice that what kind of those new tasks stand for? To fulfil your materialistic target? You may want a new car, so you get it. Then what? A new house, new job, promotion etc. Those are taking and will never fulfil the hole of self-demanding, once you achieve this goal, you will crave another one and maybe more robust and endless.
In a competitive society nowadays, people become more selfish and aim for taking to achieve their targets. I am one in this cycle, but I discover a new goal that makes me happier and feels the value of living. It’s giving. I was bored to chase my same goals to complete. I fed up to set the new goals but never fill the hole in my mind until I discover the giving. I started with the small donation that I was able to supply such blood giving, clothes donation, being consultant and volunteer. I felt happy differently but real. If I compare myself with wealthier people, I will feel down and unsatisfied. If I look down on people is lower than me I will arrogant and never had self-improvement. But when I give from what I have, I feel more valuable and need to do it again and again. The easiest giving is forgiveness.
Giving is also good therapy for mentality sickness and psychological disorder. Now I write down at least one of my goals to do a thing for other people who lack the opportunity to have a life as I have. What is your goal?
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